Death of a Spouse

You would give anything to have them back.

You wake up on Sunday morning excited about the drive you’ll take with him and your dogs.

Then, it hits you. He’s gone.

There will never be another Sunday drive. These seconds of denial tear your heart in two.

As you slog through cooking breakfast for one, the should’ves, could’ves, and would’ves cascade through your brain as it tries to bargain for a different outcome than his death.

This is what you miss the most, the routine things. Not the vacations or celebrations… oh, that hurts, too, but the daily and weekly rituals of living with your soul’s companion you miss the most.

It’s so hard to be alone again.

As you walk through the house, you see all the chores he left behind.

The anger comes fast and furious like wildfire in a drought.

How could he leave all this to you?

Memories of when you were so angry at him that you wished he was dead. You scream out loud before the flood of tears carrying the guilt and shame that you could have thought that – that you can be so angry now at someone that you miss so much.

At the grocery store, you struggle to remember getting what he would get. When it’s time to pay the bills, it’s the same problem. How do you function when half of you is missing?

When the sun sets, you try to remember the last time you could go to sleep when you hit the sheets. You lay there wishing you could hear the snore that was your queue and that all was right in your world. You long for his scent, which has faded with every passing day.

How do you survive this grief?

I am here to support you.

One of the hardest parts of surviving your spouse is he is the person you want to talk to about your loss. My experience successfully helping people through this loss means I can give you a sacred space to share everything you are thinking, feeling, and doing to cope.

Most people don’t understand that your relationship is very much alive. We will use a grief journal to explore that relationship and release thoughts and feelings that are currently overwhelming. With this as a foundation, we will drill down to find a compassionate understanding of the anger, guilt, shame, and sorrow you are experiencing.

When the tide of emotions recedes, we will work on how you become you again. There is so much inside you that you haven’t thought about in years. It happens to all of us in relationships. We develop some parts, and other parts go dormant. You know what else? There are things inside that you hadn’t even begun to discover when you married. We’ll unearth those as well.

The grief will always be there in one way or another, but you can build a full and happy life around it. When grief surfaces, you will know what you need to do with it and how to move forward simultaneously.

You CAN get through this.

When you are treading water in the high tide of grief, it is easy to feel like it will never be different than what it is. I can help you come to the shore of life.

You may be shaky at first, but I can support you as you gather the strength to go from surviving back to a full and satisfying life.

Don’t stay alone in your overwhelm. Call me today and enter a space of healing.

You can experience deep connection again.

Peace is waiting for you. Call me today for your free 15-minute consultation: (315) 876-4419.